Uncle told us about the cancer about 3 months after he knew because he did not want us to worry or fuss over him. He refused to go to the hospital or receive cancer treatment as we knew he would. As frustrated as we were by this, we had no idea that this would be the most important gift that Uncle would ever give our family. For two months, we cared for Uncle in his home as he rapidly deteriorated. I cannot even imagine the pain and discomfort he experienced, but he never complained once. At first, he would not let my sister, mother and I see him because he felt like less of man now that people had to help him. This tore me to shreds. We came to his house everyday and sat in the family room knowing that he liked knowing we were there. We rotated to ensure that someone was there every hour of the day and held family dinners at his house every night. Even though he couldn’t see us, we knew that he loved hearing us talking, cooking and even just watching TV. He did not want to be alone. When Uncle finally let my Mom, sister and I see him, he welcomed us with a huge smile and open arms. He let us rub his feet because they were getting cold due to increasing circulation problems. He thought it was hilarious that my brother had to bathe him and change him because now the roles had been reversed. He let us help him roll over and squeezed our hands with strength that a man of his feeble weight should not possibly have. Uncle passed away in his family room with our family at his bedside until he took his last breath. I would not trade this moment for anything. Uncle had given my family the greatest gift that we will ever receive. He had finally let us give back to him and be with him during the most difficult time in his life. He gave my brother and I the gift of a better relationship. He gave my family the most precious moments of time we have ever spent together. Today, and every day, I remember my Uncle Lloyd. He was one of the greatest people I have ever met and will ever meet. Thank you C&D for asking this question and for the gift of sharing this with others.