When do you hide?

Daily | August 27th, 2008 by Danielle LaPorte

You can run, and you can hide…

Carrie says: When I’m not up for small talk. I duck around the corner at the grocery store if I see someone who I know but I am too tired to chat. Yes, I admit it.

Danielle says: I hide when I’m angry. Sometimes that’s good - I’m learning to cool down before I press “send.” But really it would also be growthful if I respected my anger like I respect my other “nice” feelings, and let it have some space to be seen and heard…and thus, possibly even respected.

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Jody 08/27/2008 03:55 AM 1 point
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I hide when I am feeling vulnerable. Sometimes I just know that the vulnerability I am feeling isn't justified but is a subconscios way of telling me I need some me time.

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Beth C. 08/27/2008 05:11 AM 1 point
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I hide when I am tired and when I'm just plain overwhelmed by the combination of family, work and volunteer commitments that I have made. Since I was about 14, I have needed a balance between periods in which I am committed to doing more than one could possibly get done in a day mixed with periods in which I have absolutely no commitments.

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Jennifer Sage 08/27/2008 05:27 AM 1 point
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The time I am most likely to "hide" is if there is pressure on me to do some obligation type duty at work.(like an extra days work.) My best contribution is creative and spontaneous and it can be genuine and generous.
I'm not at my best bowing to pressure. Mostly I just walk from that (and hide).

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Mellie 08/27/2008 05:53 AM 1 point
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It's not so much much a matter of feeling a need to hide, but more a need to seek. Peace and solitude are vital for me to feel grounded and have the time to sort and sift through my thoughts and feelings. i seek geting in touch with myself by being on my own ( cat for company is ok though!) preferably away from all people, but a yoga class or just sitting in silence with my partner will do the trick too. There is so much noise and distraction in our lives that unless I can take this time out , I feel totally overwhelmed and exhausted. I now set my limits with work and people which has given me more contentment and a sense of being much more comfortabble in my own skin. By the way I love this website, it's become a part of my "seeking" what I need.

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Angela 08/27/2008 05:53 AM 1 point
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When I come home from work. I need about and hour to an hour and a half by myself to decompress and clear out the noise in my head before I can be social again.

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Vix 08/27/2008 06:03 AM 1 point
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When i need to put my fingers in own sockets and re-energise mentally, physically, spiritually - I am fortunate to live alone so its easy to get away from friends and family, demands and things to do. I come out again feeling guilt free, a smile on face and energy to handle the next fun i dreamed of. I call it my duvet days and the are bliss!!!

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Ella 08/27/2008 06:34 AM 1 point
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When I know I need to connect to the quiet part of myself. Really, though, what I'm working on is not hiding. Coming out when I know I need to connect to others, finding someone to talk to, going outside to see who I come across. Not hiding within a group when I feel disconnected (by that I mean not tuning out).

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Beccie 08/27/2008 06:55 AM 1 point
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When there is confrontation. I am not good at confrontation at all! I know I should stand in there and speak my mind, but it seems that when I do, I am the one who ends up hurt. I am a very sensitive person. An area I've tried to change, but I've learned I don't want to change that part of me. It is a big part of what makes Me, ME. Hiding sounds like a bad thing. I think others who speak their minds too freely, should try it.

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Pam 08/27/2008 07:32 AM 1 point
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I hide when I'm hurt, whether its a person or a situation that has affected me and taken away my strength or confidence I take the time to hide, heal and build myself back up until I'm ready to stand as a strong and confident person again. I think its my way of not showing weakness? Not sure if this a good thing or not.

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SRead 08/27/2008 07:34 AM 1 point
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I usually refer to this as "retreating", and I need to do it when I am overwhelmed, exhausted or disappointed. If I need to collect my thoughts and heal I seek solitude, but if I just need to change my frame of mind and re-energize I can "hide" in a crowd.

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Kate 08/27/2008 07:51 AM 1 point
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I hide from my kids when I need 10 minutes on the phone with a friend!!!

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Girl-Woman 08/27/2008 08:06 AM 1 point
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First of all, Carrie, I have done the duck-behind-the-corner in the grocery store, too.

Sometimes I hide in plain site. In a large group of women, such as a book club discussion that goes awry, if I'm "chat-deprived" and just can't focus on their problems, I hide in plain site: I don't make eye contact, I study the handout for the book, I scrunch down in the chair. My body language says, "Chatted out."

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Shelly 08/27/2008 08:17 AM 1 point
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I hide when I'm having a bad image day. When I feel disconnected from the universe and alone but unable to reach out. I'm trying to work on reaching out in those moments but it can be hard.

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Xai Vicente Charles 08/27/2008 08:41 AM 1 point
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Oh my it seems as if Carrie and I go through the same thing. When I am not in a mood for small talk I run. I will cross the street, leave the supermarket, not answer the phone. My other one is when I am completely broke. I just lay low.

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Wazzy 08/27/2008 08:42 AM 1 point
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I hide when the world seems out to get me and I just need to gather myself up and get away from it all. I hide when I feel like any external forces that alter my day will only complicate things. The funny thing is, the people that are my BEST friends are the ones who dare to come into my "hiding" world and draw me out. At first I am annoyed at them for it and later I thank them for it.

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Joannie 08/27/2008 08:49 AM 1 point
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When I'm hurting deeply and it's too soon to talk about it or the person I'm with is the person who hurt me or isn't the person I want to share myself with or I don't want to talk to anyone about it except God.

I don't answer the phone if the person calling is a chatterbox and I'm not up to chatter. Caller ID is wonderful.

When I need help and know that my need will not be met but will be seen as a want and therefore not important or selfish. This is unique only to my husband.

With Beccie I'm very sensitive, some would say too sensitive. However, it's who I am and I believe it's what makes me tolerant, compassionate and loving. It's like my honesty which can make me naive. But, hey, I'd rather be naive and honest than a liar.

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Karen 08/27/2008 08:50 AM 1 point
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Me too!! Decompress is the pefect word.

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Traci 08/27/2008 08:54 AM 1 point
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I hide when I'm broke, too. It's the best way to avoid spending!

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Traci 08/27/2008 08:55 AM 1 point
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I hide when I'm overwhelmed and scared and honestly just need to bunker down until whatever is overwhelming or scary goes away or quiets down.

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Kristin (The Goat) 08/27/2008 08:56 AM 1 point
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Exactly. You put words to what I was thinking! I do that same thing.

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Kristin (The Goat) 08/27/2008 09:01 AM 1 point
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I used to hide all the time. When I was a smoker (and no one really knew it) I would hide in my car, around corners, behind newspapers anywhere where I could have a smoke and not have anyone see me. Now that I have been smoke free for over a year I still find myself seeking out those places but then I realize I don't need them.
I now live in a 5 story condo - I tell people that it's called "Forced Socialization" - unless I stop leaving the house, I have to see people and can't hide.

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Kirsty 08/27/2008 09:19 AM 1 point
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I too love call display :)

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