Carrie says:My To Do list! But sometimes, you need to add togetherness to the To Do list. It doesn’t sound romantic, but it’ll get you what you want! This is about planning to connect in whatever form, be it date night or an extra hour on Sunday. One of the things that hinders me from connecting this way is when I don’t have nice underwear. My underwear is tomboyish not feminine, but if I wear a men’s undershirt and boy shorts, I feel great/sexy.

Danielle says: We put a stereo in our bedroom last year. I’ll let Marvin Gaye and his funky backup brothers sing the rest…