Comments on: What do you regret?

By: andar909

andar909 — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 00:20:42 +0000

hi, andar here, i just read your post. i like very much. agree to you, sir.

By: Vanessa Rae

Vanessa Rae — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 16:19:10 +0000

a few…
not believing that sometimes rejection is a blessing… going around in circles instead of trusting the lesson the first time… not believing that I am enough… not giving them the finger… giving them the finger instead of speaking my mind… comparing myself to others… putting the cult of fame on a pedestal while knowing I’m truly happy with my simple yet abundant life… the secrets I promised to keep but didn’t… not laughing at myself more… not taking myself more seriously… apologizing for things I wasn’t sorry for… walking on eggshells… not dancing despite the rain.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Sun, 27 Jul 2008 17:50:46 +0000

I regret not going back to school at taking Marketing. I regret not having more fun in the last 7yrs. I regret not believing in my self 10 yrs ago to just go for it.

I don’t regret that I’m doing those things now. Better late then never, so I’ve moved on to bigger things.

By: Shug

Shug — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 22:48:40 +0000

Haven’t ever really been a person who “believes” in regrets, even for the things that caused pain and suffering, because I’ve learned to value the lessons and learning derived from it all. But thinking about it, I do regret the times I have/do not stand up for myself, have/do not listen to my heart, have/do not ask for what I need. In this regard I have and sometimes continue to do myself a disservice. And if I’d been more aware of these things, I actually could’ve avoided some of the things I have denied regretting.

By: Shug

Shug — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 22:37:01 +0000

first, I have to say, i followed your story as written – to the front yard as a baby – and thought perhaps since you never looked back you just kept on running until you found another place to live (w/o a spooky basement) I laughed outloud when reading your add on. but . . . seriously, I found, too, that living by myself and traveling by myself have both been incredibly empowering things for me. I only lived by myself for a year or two my whole life (46 now) and was truly my best self then. The challenge has come in living with someone else now, striving to be my best self now. It is hard sometimes. Actually, it’s often difficult.

And about traveling . . . I so much love sharing experiences with people and travel is a great way to explore and discover things together. How wonderful it was to explore solo travel and discover that I could have a good, no GREAT time in my own company. By internalizing more and sharing less in the moment (by way of a companion), I felt like I received a cherished gift that was mine alone. I still enjoy traveling with other people, don’t get me wrong, but stepping past my hesitation to go it alone sometimes has always, always held huge rewards and I am dedicated to doing and reaping more.

By: Elaine

Elaine — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 13:23:20 +0000

Thanks for the kind words. I know I did learn a lot of valuable lessons-just wish it wouldn’t take so long to “pay” for the leaning. Have a great day. Elaine

By: MarieLeona

MarieLeona — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 11:16:03 +0000

In the best of times, I try to live without regrets…nevertheless there are certain moments, person, and event I wish I would have lived, loved, and participated differently but my motto in life is: “Change one thing, change everything!” Everything happens for its purpose and sometimes the purpose is not always so visible. I believe that I am where I need to be.

By: Pam

Pam — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 10:42:53 +0000

I regret letting my weight climb over the years and then hindering different things I wanted to accomplish and also holding me back from taking chances. It often dictated who I was and also brought so much negativity and self loathing into my life. I have now lost over 140 pounds and I can’t believe the difference in my attitude, courage to try new things, and over all happiness. So in one way I regret that but I guess I would not have this wonderful feeling of accomplishment and pride in myself for taking charge and becoming healthy and happy.

By: Marn

Marn — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 05:35:15 +0000

I ‘regret’ trying to please so many people for so many years. Enough of that.
Also not traveling more in my 20’s.
Oh, and keeping up a high maintenance relationship with a girlfriend who I allow to suck my emotional, physical, and mental energy. I obviously get something from keeping the toxicity up, otherwise, why would I keep it up?!

By: Beth C.

Beth C. — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 04:23:13 +0000

I regret not having had a baby in my twenties.