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I have been very busy the last few months. Okay, really it’s been the last few years of being busy. Although I adore my husband, when fatigue and irritability set in, it is hard to feel close. In these highly sensitive moments, sometimes I am relieved to have dinner alone. I just know that his chewing would seem loud and be too much for me. And because I am committed to having a great marriage we took a weekend workshop called The Art and Science of Love offered by the Gottman Institute. The workshop provided us with many insights and tools. Dr. Gottman states that when couples move towards each other at least five times, a day it makes a difference.

So I discovered small ways to connect, to turn toward him:

1. Greeting him at the door when he comes home.
2. Asking “can I get you anything?”
3. Listening to The Grateful Dead for at least 30 seconds (even though it is agonizing for me!)
4. Staying late at a party with him.
5. Checking in with him during the day. (Both my and Danielle’s husbands call us at work with little check ins.)

Life is much better when I move towards my hubby. He is my guy!