First dates can be stressful and annoying. If you just met your date, you might as well be eating with a stranger.

Some people have the gift of gab, and they can talk to anybody about any subject. My husband has that amazing gift, and to this day, I don’t understand how he can walk into a store and have a conversation with whoever happens to be behind the counter. But if you’re like me, striking up a conversation with a stranger doesn’t come naturally, so you may experience first-date jitters.

Everyone wants to avoid the “awkward silence” on a first date–where you and your date sit staring at each other from across the table with nothing but dead silence between the two of you. You need to keep the conversation going, but that doesn’t imply “word vomiting,” in which you talk about anything and everything just to break the silence. There are definitely topics to avoid on a first date, and if you want there to be a second date, you’d better stay in the safe zone.

Democrat vs. Republican

Talking about politics on a first date is iffy. According to some, it makes great conversation, but from my observations, casual talk about politics can quickly turn into a huge debate. No one’s saying you have to marry a person who shares your political thoughts, but arguing about abortion, same-sex marriages, or any other hot topic is not the way to start a date.

Reserve Talk About the Future for the Future

How many kids do you want? Do you plan to get married? These are casual questions that most people don’t mind answering. But if you’re on a date with someone who’s practically a stranger, pull in the reins a bit. Talking about the future can create uneasiness. It’s natural to be curious, and if you really like the person, it’s nice to know where their head is. But if they’re not thinking in that direction yet, you can easily scare them off.

How Much Money Do You Make?

Want to kill a first date fast? Venture into “none of your business” territory, and watch your date head for the hills. Asking about a person’s income, credit score, or debt is inappropriate, and it’ll raise flags. Are you looking for love and companionship or just security? Nobody wants a gold digger.

Me, Myself, and I

I always say, “If you want to break the ice and get a conversation started, get people to talk about themselves.” People love talking about their accomplishments, fear, hopes, and dreams. There’s no shame in getting involved with that yourself, but don’t monopolize the entire conversation. Pay attention to the number of time you say “me” or “I.” Feeling a little narcissistic? Don’t worry. Flip the script and ask about your date’s job, family, and interests.