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The Single Girl’s Guide To Loving Yourself This V-Day

Healing, Sexuality | February 10th, 2009

Have you heard?

Valentine’s Day is coming up…soon. And for those of us without a partner in crime, Valentine’s Day tends to be less than thrilling. Unless, of course, you consider romantic comedies and a tube of cookie dough to be thrilling.

But while everyone else is weeping silently over pictures of lost loves and giving the stink eye to every couple that passes, I am actually quite excited about being single this year. No, I am not some Samantha character who much prefers no-strings-attached sex, but I am someone who has learned to love the single life and I feel it is important to remind everyone out there of the good sides.

Body Maintenance

When I was in a relationship, maintaining my body for someone else was my biggest goal. Sure, I benefitted from the exercising and healthy eating, but being single is about doing it all for me! I work out because it makes me feel good, not because I’m afraid of the jiggles during sex. Plus, I don’t have to shave my legs every time I shower or go through monthly hell in the form of a bikini wax. Score one for single-dom.

Everything is on My Time

Do I feel like taking a 6:30 Pilates class while most people would prefer to be home cooking dinner? I can do it. Do I want to lay around in my underwear all day Saturday reading my books and catching up on my TV? I can do it. Do I want to meet up with the girls for a drink before meeting up with other girls for another drink? I can do it all. And I don’t have to answer to anyone!

Time for the Important People

It is sad but true: when we get into relationships, many of our other relationships fall to the back burner. Whereas we used to spend an hour on Monday nights catching up with with friends, we are now spending that time with the lovey dovey man in our life. Being single, though, has allowed me to focus all the attention on the people who have been there for me the longest. Not only is reconnecting great, but these people are important to me for a reason and having the chance to talk or hang out with them is truly priceless.

I’m sure that being with someone over a romantic dinner on Valentine’s Day would be a lovely experience, but I just don’t know if I’m willing to give up everything else for some roses and a little looove. I love me this VDay, and I’m gonna love me some Romantic Comedies and a tube of cookie dough.

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