There are twelve signs in the zodiac, but there are actually two components needed to get a basic grasp of your personality; your sun sign (which talks your essential self and is the easiest to find out…just takes your birth date), and your moon sign (which is about your emotional and inner self — that part of you that responds to habits, your psychic or instinctual feelings and your emotions). Finding out your Sun and Moon signs can shed a lot of light on how you work, what your strengths are and what you need to work on. It will also help you in relationships as you will be able to find out the compatibility issues between yourself, friends and lovers.
Sun Signs Aren’t All There Is
Sun signs are very popular (who doesn’t receive their horoscope every week in their e-mail?) they seem to tell us everything about our personalities, but no sun sign gives the full scope of your personality and no one’s sun sign fits them to a bill (unless both their ascending and sun signs are the same).
For example, I live with a Libra, and this sign is all about balance. They are known to be somewhat dramatic, and emotionally they keep themselves a little closed off and like to let other people take the reigns (although when called for they can take a leadership role). Now the Libra I know is very much a perfectionist and likes to be in control of their environment; they like to know absolutely everything that is going on. These traits are due to her Scorpio ascending sign. To determine your two signs you’re going to need to write down your date and time of birth.
I did not expect my heart to be won by a pizza mix. I appreciate the finer ingredients and my favorite meal is gourmet salad served with French bread dipped in olive oil. Eating a dubious cheese pizza prepared from a boxed mix might seem like a traumatic fall, but my heart had other priorities. A man willing to impress me by making an effort in the kitchen was a huge turn-on, especially since he added personal touches.
I admit to a limited history with men who cook. On special occasions, my father grilled on a hibachi, but never prepared side dishes. I learned to eat whatever he made with a side of pre-sliced bread and love it. When I worked as a chef, the owner cooked for his family almost every evening, but knowing that many of the top chefs were men and many of them also were the primary home cooks didn’t register with me at the time. I believed men in general married to gain a cook.
My man’s willingness to serve a chef pizza from a box made him special. He wasn’t trying to compete with me; sharing was his goal. One shared moment led to food samplings, intimacy and commitment. We might not be considered fully compatible, but his strengths complement mine and I am willing to share my private kitchen with him.
While there are no absolutes, there are a few variables for a sensual dinner that should always be considered.
Create That Sensual Meal
Find out or discover the guest’s favorites and definitely ask about food allergies. If a person is interested, the meal will be secondary, but making note and cooking for special preferences and needs shows attentive listening and that translates to wild appreciation. The man who won my heart adapts meals to my vegetarian tastes.
Relationships can be tough. Not only are you constantly trying to figure out your own life, but you’re also constantly trying to also make sure your partner is happy — which can sometimes be a pretty thankless job, leaving you wondering if your partner is truly reciprocating all the love!
There has been many a day in my own 10+ year relationship that I have been ready to pack it in and call it quits. Bye, Bye, see you in another life! But when you’ve been with someone for so long, it’s very difficult to walk away and not feel a large gap in your life.
Believe me, I should know. At one point it got so bad I tried to leave.
How I Learned To Not Sweat The Small Stuff
Because we shared two beautiful boys quickly growing into little men, and missed having a family, my partner and I ended up getting back together after almost a year, and have been that way ever since. This is not to say that we don’t still have our knock down drag outs, and it’s definitely not to say we haven’t both made our share of mistakes. But we made a choice to forgive each other and try to work it out, even if we end up coming to blows!
In making this journey with my guy, I have learned a few key things in regards to what makes relationships run smoothly, and what throws mile high roadblocks in your way. One of the biggest issues is allowing yourself to get worked up over every single little thing.
This is a story of Charles the Gay, as my girlfriend came to call him.
Charles was my first date when I got into town. He was comic and peculiar: very thin and a few inches taller than me with big dramatic eyes. His voice was rich, with a tapping staccato to his pronunciation. Words came fast and incessant once he got started. Charles the Gay was very fun to listen to. He reminded me of an industrious cricket.
We laughed a lot.
Charles the Gay and I kissed on the first date. It seemed to be going very well, the date. We strolled down the neighborhood and ate snacks at an outdoor haunt. We drank beer and listened to a guy play sidewalk sax around the corner. There was a festive mood in the air. It was dusk.
This is not a big surprise. In the last ten years, I moved to a new city five times. The recent move, however, involved the desire for a man.
Love uprooted me the first time when I was 20. I left home for San Francisco to be with my boyfriend. It was très romantique.
Now, I am far from 20, still single, and moving to a metro of prospective lovers known for its smart, creative men. If I am a kid, this is my candy store. Moving for a guy before I know who he is? Call it creative manifesting.
Gotta have faith. Mail order brides do it all the time.
