You’ve put on your sexiest lingerie. You’ve lit up candles, put on some music, and arranged yourself in your most “come-hither” position. Now that you’ve been on a few dates and laughed over a few cocktails, it’s time to go back to his place.

You’d think that we have evolved to the point that we are no longer worried about being embarrassed. We live in an age that values sex and intimacy, so it seems only natural to be open-minded.

The Naked Truth

But when it comes to sex, some women find it hard to relax and try new things. Sure, some of us are equipped with the innate ability to let ourselves go during sex without feeling worried or self-conscious. But for many of us, thinking sexually outside the box isn’t quite so easy. Many women are afraid to try new things for fear of scaring their partners, but there are a number of things you can do to boost your chances of having a great sexual experience.

Relax…and Have an Orgasam

It’s easier said than done, of course, but studies show that relaxation plays an important role in good sex. Not only does it release endorphins into your system, which have a calming effect and create a feeling of overall happiness, but it also enables you to lose yourself and let yourself go as you near orgasm. As a general rule, it is difficult for some women to achieve orgasm. In fact, there is a percentage of the female population that has never experienced it! Part of this issue is due to the fact that we are so caught up in trying to please our partners that we forget about ourselves.

The truth is, you can try so hard to orgasm that you actually negate your ability to get there and beyond. Even thinking–about anything–as you near that virtual apex of pleasure can pull you right out of the pleasure zone. So clear your mind. You deserve it.

Embrace Your Imperfections

We’re always stressing over something. Whether it’s that giant heart-shaped birthmark on your hip or the way your body instinctively arches backward during sex, everyone has something about themselves they wish they could change. But there’s no need to. A lot of men actually find things like that attractive. When you use that to your advantage, you can actually heighten your pleasure and feel more in tune with your partner. So let it go, and be yourself. It is sexy—really!

Confidence Is Key

Whether you’re with a long-term partner or someone entirely new, confidence is sexy on anyone–and yet some of us cringe at the thought of seeming pompous or bitchy if we seem too sure of ourselves. But the truth is that men are drawn to confident women. They like women who are not afraid to take the reins in the bedroom. This can heighten pleasure for both parties. Being confident means not holding back when you feel the urge to grab an unsuspecting part of your partner’s body.

So grab hold (literally)! You are in the driver’s seat, and you determine your own destiny.

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