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It’s no secret–regular gift-giving and little surprises make lovers feel special. Men and women might define “gifts” differently, though they will both likely agree that gifts bring bliss to a relationship. Communication and being in touch with each other’s feelings are the essential elements of everyday gift-giving. Save the jewelry and flowers for special occasions–everyday gifts are more about intimate moments. Think love notes or text messages with little poems.

Yummy, Edible Gifts

Thoughtful gifts don’t have to be expensive or valuable, because it’s the sentiment that matters. Just letting someone know you’re thinking about him makes him feel special. Many people communicate love with food, and sensual treats are all about indulgence, often in the form of sweet goodies that are served in special ways. Try giving miniature candies or chocolate bars on a pillow or tucked into a briefcase to be found later. Ice-cream sundaes served in one bowl with two spoons and breakfast in bed or on the patio are other great edible gift ideas.

It’s the Thought That Counts

Intimate moments are wonderful gifts of the self (espescially when fit into busy schedules) to make a person feel wanted. They’re also easy–to show your love, give a massage or a special look directly in the eyes. Take advantage of everyday situations. Instead of having one person shuffle the kids to activities, perhaps that time can be used as a pseudo-date. Go together to the softball game, hold hands, and cheer.

My husband chose to draw me a bath after I had an especially stressful day. He didn’t settle for sending me into the bathroom to relax. He cleaned the bathroom, set out candles, added bath salts, and had fluffy towels and music ready. While a bath might seem mundane, he put effort into making the experience an indulgent relaxation for me. His thoughtfulness is a gift that could never be purchased, and it comes with practice and understanding.

The Four R’s

You may be wondering how to encourage your lover to give you these romantic gifts. The simplest way to start the gift-giving is with the four R’s of romance:

Reward
When your special person does something thoughtful for you, compliment him or her. Make it worth his time and effort to gain a repeat performance.

Reciprocate
Start by doing special things for the person you love, and your lover will feel the need to give back. Love notes, a shoulder massage, or a just-because kiss are good starter ideas. Be ready to accept a similar treat in return.

Reminisce
Falling in love brings a special passion, a want to spend every moment together, and a flurry of heart-thumping moments throughout the day when you are apart and want to do something to make that person realize how much you care. Rekindle those feeling by setting aside special time to remind each other of things you did and why you fell in love.

Reinforce
Two simple words–”thank you”–are essential to letting someone know how much you appreciate the moments they think of you. There’s no better feeling than being loved, so make a commitment to give and receive that special love every day. You’ll be glad you did!

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