Comments on: Love: Complicated, or Simple?

By: ed hardy

ed hardy — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 12:12:07 +0000

Love is complicated. The idea of love in itself leads to many more branches.

By: Ngonzi Truth

Ngonzi Truth — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 13:08:09 +0000

Well, I'd like to think that LOVE is simple....like Eryka Badu sings "It could all be simple, but you'd rather make it hard". Why do we make things that should be simple, so hard? From a psychological standpoint, behavior is learned, what you think affects how you feel and what you do.....or how you formed early attachments to caregivers (parents, etc.) affect how you currently relate to others.....Is your view of the world that it's a fun loving place and most people are inherently good....or is it people are out of what they can get....or is it a mixture.....

And from a simpler standpoint...people bring past relational baggage into new relationships...and this makes it complicated.

However, there are ways to uncomplicate things. If both parties are willing to:

COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY (listen, understand and respond appropriately)
WORK ON FINANCES ($ money or the lack of can greatly affect the intimacy)
DEVELOP INTIMACY (What is intimacy? is it sex or love or cuddling?)

These also happen to be the 3 things that make/break a relationship

By: Carrie

Carrie — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 15:31:22 +0000

Brilliantly said! Thank you

By: Anna

Anna — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 23:10:55 +0000

Great comment! I totally agree with that.
To me, love is very simple. It's either there or it's not. You can't force it. Hoewever humans have over complicated it with all kinds of relationship guides etc.

By: Elisabeth

Elisabeth — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 20:33:00 +0000

Love is simple. Human beings are complicated.

By: Alison

Alison — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 20:24:49 +0000

Mental gymnastics are complicated: Relationships are complicated. Love, on the other hand, can't be forced, grasped for or earned through any such thing, and somehow, yes, I do think it maintains its simplicity.

By: Caitlin

Caitlin — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 17:28:40 +0000

Real love is capable of making a very complicated situation dead simple.

All those little details and complications that are a big problem when you're with the wrong person don't seem to matter as much when you are with the right person.

You love each other – that's what matters – above all else.

By: Connie

Connie — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 16:47:41 +0000

I feel love is as easy as breathing and as important. Of course, sometimes it is hard to breathe as it is hard to love; not complicated but sometimes not simple either. And if simple, not easy.

By: kerrymac

kerrymac — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 15:37:23 +0000

So complicated right now...14 years, three kids, job transfers and a house build are leaving little time for nurturing our marriage. Love in general though so simple...the love I hold for my hubbie and family is always there and true despite the daily challenges.
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By: Pumpkin

Pumpkin — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 14:11:25 +0000

Love is complicated. The idea of love in itself leads to many more branches. There is all the different types of love: family love(and all the other loves within that love), romantic love, love for a pet, love for a good friend, love for a “fringe” friend, love for a regular friend, love for your enemies…and so on and so forth.

And then each type of love is complicated within itself. Since love is generally an interaction between two or more people then you must always take into consideration how the other people are feeling, what they are thinking, what their beliefs are…and again the list goes on and on.

So, simply put, my thoughts are that love is complicated.