Comments on: Does It All Happen For A Reason?

By: black flight

black flight — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 22:15:00 +0000

for me it was 4 years. and prior to that i always thought “broken heart” was a turn of phrase. oh no. you can feel it break.

glad you got your answer … 5 years on.

By: Elisabeth

Elisabeth — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 22:48:32 +0000

Stuff happens. It doesn't mean anything.

It is a great gift to be able to take an unpleasant experience and create something from it. But sometimes all there is to do is grieve and go on. And when good stuff happens, enjoy it to the fullest!

By: Alison

Alison — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 22:07:35 +0000

I agree.

By: saverqueen

saverqueen — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 17:03:42 +0000

You know, I used to believe that everything happened for a reason. Now I believe that it is up to us to make what happens meaningful.

Now I feel empowered, as it is up to me, how I handle the challenges that come my way, and it is up to me to find a purpose to life.

By: Jennywren

Jennywren — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 16:16:35 +0000

I think our challenges are a mixture of our past decisions and where we are destined to be, our path.

In those harder times I always remember, or am reminded by someone else, “THIS TOO SHALL PASS” and this concerns both those events we consider “Good” & those we consider “Bad”.

Think of the worst things that have happened in your life. You survived them and you will this too.

By: Connie

Connie — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 16:01:43 +0000

I love a poem by Robert Frost called “Trial by Existence.” It gives an exquisite picture of life before
life and our ability to choose ours and then forget we did as we live it out here on Earth.

By: Linda

Linda — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 15:25:49 +0000

I'm in the same position you are -- my company has taken bankrupcy projection and the expected safety net of severance is gone. I expect to be laid off any day now without a safety net.
I think we have a choice on how we relate to any changes, even unwanted surprises. We can cave in and react. Or we can make the decision you have to "move on to bigger and better things." We are the artists of our life. Like you, I'd rather use this as a spring board to something better. I'm also using this as an opportunity to decide what is really important for the next phase of my life. I've chosen this anthem for my next move. It's a song by Josh Groban:
Let me fall
Let me climb
There's a moment when fear
And dreams must collide
Someone I am
Is waiting for courage
The one I want
The one I will become
Will catch me

By: Rick Juliusson

Rick Juliusson — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 13:57:27 +0000

In retrospect, yes – it's so comforting to justify everything afterward, even though so many different paths could have been taken that would have been equally justifiable. “Oh, we were meant to break up so that I could find my true life partner.” If it had worked out with the first one, we'd be saying, “So that's why I didn't have that fling, so I could stay with this true life partner.”

By: Jessica

Jessica — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 13:50:42 +0000

I'll never forget...5 years ago (almost to the week, now) I went through the most painful, traumatic break-up a young adult could ever go through. FIrst love, many years, just ripped to shreds by a boy who -- at the time -- had no idea how to go about ending something so delicate and monumental.

I was screaming. Crying. Depressed. Hopeless. Every day. Every.single.day. Life went on but only halfway because my heart wasn't just broken, it was smashed. To bits. A year went by. Another year. The pain ebbed but didn't go away. I wanted this boy back. I asked him in so many ways, I begged God, over and over...please, let us get back together...

I never wished for anything so intensly in my young life. And when it didn't happen, I lost a lot of faith. In Karma. In Fate. In God.

Now. Today. I know why the Universe just couldn't make it happen. I know why and I'm so greatful. I can FINALLY see (although I never thought it would be possible) why that wish didn't come true. And my life has been drastically altered for THE BETTER because of it.

5 years is a long time to wait for an answer, but for me -- it came.

By: Jean

Jean — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 13:42:35 +0000

Acacia, your comment reminds me of something a comedian said (was it Ellen?). As a relative experienced great pain and died someone said to her that God only gives us as much anguish as he knows we can take. So she commented that if she were a weaker person her relative would still be alive, huh? There is no great “reason” for things that happen. They just happen, to our great sadness. So one should not grasp and yearn to figure it out.