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Communicating with Loved Ones After Death

Spirituality | January 8th, 2009 by Beckah Boyd

As a psychic medium, many people come to me for closure about a loved one who has passed away. They see their family and friends as separate from them, but if they only knew the truth! We crave privacy, but when you have family on the Other side, that goes right out the window! I’m not trying to say they just sit there and watch you all day, but they are always around and even in death they may try to tell you what to do!

When I first sit down with a client, a spirit comes through with their manner of death. I’m twenty three but have had the feelings of a heart attack, overdose, and the weakness and dizziness of chemo. As soon as I acknowledge the way they passed the feelings dissipate. After that initial communication, messages really begin to come through.

Spirits Speak

Spirits love to talk, and often try to speak directly to family. The first time they do this is typically within a week or two of their death — you will dream of them. I call these “letting go” dreams. I have heard numerous stories from my clients of their letting go dreams. As a matter of fact, a woman recently came to me and told me about how three days after her father’s death (he had cancer as well as some other issues) that he came to her, hugged her and said that he was alright. After that, she knew she could stop grieving. Which is exactly the point of these dreams; your loved ones want to let you know they’re okay, you don’t need to be sad anymore.


I never met my grandfather, but boy was he a character! He was the first spirit I ever saw and is around me constantly. He is constantly trying to communicate, and with spirits it’s not always verbal. With him it’s whiffs of cigar smoke and changing the channel to the Red Skeleton Show.

Some spirits are not so blatant with their talk, it depends on how long it has been since they have passed, their energy levels, etc. Their communication can be simple things. One client had her mother pass away and the mom spoke to me about how her daughter was a horrible night driver and how she would go in the car with her to make sure she was okay. The client laughed because two weeks prior she had gotten into a near accident with a truck on the highway and felt like someone else took the wheel for a moment and drove her to the shoulder of the road. Her mother, it turned out, used to drive cross country all of the time.

You hear the word guardian angel and you think of these winged human-like people, but here’s the thing, your spirits are your guardian angels. They look out and protect you, just as they did in life. I get bored in traffic very easily, and have had issues in my life. Sometimes, sitting in my car, I’ll say to my grandfather, ”Gramps, is everything going to be alright?” and a car will go by with the vanity plate BWELL or I will be thinking about him and a car will go by that say CRIKET (which was his nickname for my mother). There are so many different ways that spirits are trying to communicate! We just need to pay attention. I often ask for signs, especially when I am making a major decision, and things will happen that tell me without question which path to take. Try it! Ask a member of your family who has passed, you don’t even have to name anyone in particular.

There are No Limits With Spirits

Like I said earlier, when it comes to spirits, privacy goes right out the window. There is nothing that they don’t see. I remember one time it came out that a client of mine and her husband were trying to get pregnant and her grandmother came through talking about it. The grandmother said to have the husband get the client tipsy and then do the deed — that they were looking at sex as work. When I say nothing is off-limits, I mean nothing!

It may take a while for a spirit to begin real communication with you, especially right after death. Spirits go through what I call “processing”; they go over what happened in their life, make amends and deal with their death. So give them a couple of months before you start calling on them unless you are already seeing activity.

Sometimes spirits will appear to you, which is something certain people fear, while others want desperately just to see their loved ones again. When you are in the presence of spirit, especially family, there is no fear — just love — at least during the meeting. People tend to freak out only afterward.

Whether you want to see them or not, know that you are never alone and always protected. Family does not leave, they stay with you forever.

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    My Mother just died after months of loosing weight, found out terminal illness of the stomach, I stayed with her in the hospital night after night for weeks and weeks, I still see every moment of those nights more so than past memories with her, I want her to communicate, I want her to tell me she is fine in Heaven, or what is it like..I am dealing with some heavy grief, I seem not to know what to do next, or where to begin, She was our every being, Our unity to the family. How can I deal with such sadness, and grief, I feel I will never be happy again... Can you tell me something about her
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    My mother passed away 2 yrs ago from colon cancer, my mom was my best friend she was always there for me I have a daughter whom was born with a rare brain defect my mom helped me through everything. After my mom passed away my doorbell that takes a battery has no battery well it rings all the time many times in the middle of the night, early in the morning really any time of the day. I feel as if I am so lost without her ,like I wish I could disapper , sometimes I wish I was there with her. Before my mom passed away she asked me to be there for my dad and I have been, but he has used the passing of mom to take advantage of situations and my feelings and my keeping my promise to my mom. I just want to know if its ok to not deal with my dads everyday problems. As for many times he calls telling me he' ready to die and move on I am so depressed with losing mom and always haveing my dad call saying things. I just need to hear mom tell me its ok and shes not upset with me for ignoring dad alot anymore.
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    this is BULL SHIT!!! my dad just died two months ago and all i have had is nightmares!!!!!! is he mad at me??stop lying to people!!!! false hope and lies never did anyone good!!
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    I just lost the father of my 15 year old daughter last month, it hurts me so bad. Every morning at 1:30 in the morning I would wake up for no reason and than go back to sleep shortly after waking. About a week after he died my daughter and I received a text message on our phones at 1:30 in the morning. My ringer was off on my phone so anything that came through on my phone I wouldn't hear when the ringer was off but this chime was so loud that my daughter heard my text all the way in her room. I feel a little selfish because I want him to be with me all the time and I don't feel him there anymore like before. Do you think he is still around me?

    Help,
    Erin
 
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