Not only do actions speak louder than words, they also tell us practically everything we need to know when it comes to dating. An “I love you” doesn’t mean squat if your guy rarely makes time for you or if the only form of communication he seems to know is text messaging. Forget what he says–focus on what he does. Should the words and the actions sync better than Justin Timberlake and Lance Bass, then you’ve got a real winner.

1. He Calls For No Reason

When he’s really into you, he calls just for the sake of calling. He likes hearing your voice. He wants to hold a conversation with you about anything and everything. Sometimes he’ll call just to say hi, and at other times he’ll call for a specific purpose. Either way, he wants to be as close to you as humanly possible when he can’t be in your presence. Also, if he calls, you actually get to hear his voice. Text messaging can be incredibly impersonal, especially if he never calls at all. Someone who’s truly into you won’t reduce your interactions to characters on a cell phone screen.

2. You Are Not an Afterthought

He makes plans with you in mind. When he says he’s going to Myrtle Beach, he’s already planning on your accompaniment. If he’s at the supermarket and he walks by your favorite brand of orange juice and knows you’re out, he picks it up for you. Partying with friends? He’s got you in mind for that, too. Whether it’s something simple or something elaborate, you’re on his mind. That doesn’t mean he won’t cherish his own personal quality time, but when a guy really likes his woman, many of his plans and thoughts include her.

3. He Does Things to Make You Smile

He’s not so fond of that blue argyle sweater you bought for him, but he wears it anyway. He’s not the biggest fan of your special chili recipe, but he eats it because he knows you made it from your heart. When you compliment him on his new crew cut, he continues to wear it that way because he knows you dig it. When he’s truly into you, he makes it a point to see you smile by doing things he knows make you happy. Even if he gets nothing out of it, your smile is reciprocity enough for him.

4. He Asks You Questions

When he’s into you, it’s not all about him. Normally, he couldn’t care less about the historical significance of the July issue of Vogue magazine. Now he wants to know why it’s so important because it’s important to you. He probes you about your family life, your background, and your story. He wants to know why you don’t have a favorite color, why you chose State over Stanford, how you’re preparing for that marathon, and what your spiritual beliefs are. He’s genuinely interested in your life, and these seemingly small bits of information give him insight into how to love you even better.

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